- “My husband doesn’t know how to iron”
- “He usually arrives very tired from work”
- “My husband HELPS me at home”
Have you ever listened to some of those sentences?. I hate women who accuse all men as male chauvinists only for being men. Are there male chauvinist women? Of course there are. Furthermore I believe we should have to be more worried about them than about male chauvinist men.
I know a lot of men who look for a second mother on her wife but I, unfortunately, know many women who offer themselves on that task. There is a specific question women have made me about zillion times. Does your husband help you at home? HELP??? Of course not. The word “HELP” sounds as if home tasks would be just for women. What about the expression “SHARE TASKS”?. No one help anyone. Moreover, that’s a disrespectful question for women. It is like all duties at home would be for women and you, the man, arrive home and, as a big favour, decide you will do some of those duties. There some of them who say “My husband doesn’t know how to iron”. I usually ask them “Is it necessary any special university degree for that???”. I have always thought the perfect answer for many men is saying “I don’t know how to do it” but, what it is more incredible is some women believe them when they say that.
I specially enjoy when people come home for dinner and I discover he is a male chauvinist. He looks at my partner thinking “Oh, my God, he is preparing dinner”. But I must accept I enjoy more when the male chauvinist is the woman. She usually returns back home at the end of the night angry with her husband and with many questions rounding over her head.
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Because of that I'm tired to heard all this staff: Everybody should be able to do at home what they like.
Do you like have a pigsty? ok, it's your problem.
Do you like to live in a dolly house? ok it's your problem
What when a pig and a dolly fall in love...ha,ha,ha.
I'm absolutely agree with you. You know i'm a lucky person because my partner SHARE with me home works. Actually, he gets much nervious than i do when home is disorder
UAAUUU,A fantastic text,thank you very much you have written the best thing I have seen in the blog,a person who writes things properly.I'm sure that you are an intelligent boy,but be more sensible because in our class there are more ladies and if they know who are you may have problems.haha
There are still many people who have this prejudices. I agree with you: the question is to share the tasks at home.
And it's a question of education. Parents teach to their children what they learned. And the parents generation that now have children in the age of share their lives with a partner, had a "bad" education, so the new families have to fight against this bad education received.
Dear Camapa,
I completely agree with you. As every social and cultural improvement the use of sharing home tasks need time to completely take place. Years ago man and women share tasks in the sense that men worked outside home and women inside looking after children and taking care of everything. Of course that's already possible and is a respectable choice to organize a family. The most women of our generation however like to choose a different job and prefer to work outside home and expressing skills and abilities different form cooking and ironing. That it's a great conquest not only for women but for whole society.
In my opinion anyway the heritage of previous culture is difficult to uproot. The feminist-movement generation of women (which we surely must thank) sometimes forgot to leave their mother’s way of behaving because deep-uprooted part of their education. They sometimes
pretend by themselves too much as they were a sort of “career-housewife-super-women”.
I'm thinking about my mother who surely fought for women right and choose to realize her potential also with a job which she loves a lot.
Years ago she asked me to help ironing clothes of the family which usually she did and of course I agreed thinking it was right. While I was ironing a pair of my brother’s trousers I thought it was not as fair as it seemed to me before because I wouldn’t probably have never seen him doing the same. I told her “why did you ask only to me and not also to my brother or my father?“- She kept a bit astonished and thoughtful answered me “Well, actually I don’t know. I didn’t think at all about that but It was just spontaneous. You are right, It’s pretty unfair”.
Fortunately I’m convinced that current generation boys are getting favorably disposed to share tasks of family and some day argue about that will be out-of-date.
I ask women who have sons : do you completely behave in the same way (in term of homework) with boys and girls of your family? Look out…they are the next generation men and women!
I meant "cheek to cheek"...but I wrote down wrongly
Puff! How many mistakes I've done!
It's the problem when you are writing fast.
About the word "helping"... It's very difficult to acquire a activity sharing index of 50%. I think that in a couple there'll be always someone that takes more responsibilities in some tasks. It's all a question of who is more dirty and laid-back.
As most of our classmates I agree completely with you.
You've put the point on the real problem: women are the most male chauvinist! They accept the situation as normal, and the situation remains almost at te same point.
During last century women had achieved some success, but there's still a lot of work to do togheter either men and women.
Hi Camapa,
Congratulation for this post
I'm TOTALLY , TOTALLY agree with you.
Thanks for express that opinion very well.
But I have to say that I had a collegue in my work, that she was totally the opposite example, because she diden't know make nothing, and when her children arrived at home and they ask her: Mam The dinner???
she always answered, well, "I am waiting the dad and he will make the dinner."
See you
Hi camapa!
I agree with you, too. And, yes, would be nice if racist people will start to travel around the world. About your question from destiny......you know, people from this kind of countries, like Nepal or India think about all is a result from one previous action. Do you know the law cause-effect ? If we believe in other lifes, perhaps now we are in el Baix Llobregat because in the past our soulds had made something really, really good.
But in any case, sometimes it seems we not take enough advantage of our privilege situation.
You certainly engage people with this post, thus getting interesting responses! Good job!!!
Just a couple of comments to your language. Even though they are minor they need some attention:
-Have you ever listened TO some of...
-Of course noT
-any special universit(0)y degree
I'm sure they were careless mistakes!
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